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  • What is Domestic Violence?

    Domestic Violence is a violent confrontation between family or household members involving physical harm, sexual assault, or fear of physical harm. Family or household members include spouses / former spouses, those in (or formerly in) a dating relationship, adults related by blood or marriage, and those who have a biological or legal parent-child relationship.

    The batterer uses acts of violence and a series of behaviors, including intimidation, threats, psychological abuse, and isolation to coerce and to control the other person. The violence may not happen often, but may remain a hidden and constant terrorizing factor. Domestic violence is not only physical and sexual violence but also psychological. Psychological violence means intense and repetitive degradation, creating isolation, and controlling the actions or behaviors of the spouse through intimidation or manipulation to the detriment of the individual.

    Domestic violence destroys the home. No one deserves to be abused. The responsibility for the violence belongs to the abuser. It is not the victim's fault!

    HELP IS AVAILABLE THROUGH THE VICTIM ASSISTANCE PROGRAM AND THE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE UNIT OF THE CLARK COUNTY PROSECUTING ATTORNEY.

    Symptoms of Abuse - Misuse of Power And Control

    Abuse in a relationship is any act used to gain power and control over another person. Women who are abused physically are often isolated. Their partners tend to control their lives to a great extent as well as verbally degrade them.

    Listed below are some of the warning signs of domestic abuse. Look to see if there are multiple warning signs that are occurring in your life.

    USING PHYSICAL AND SEXUAL ABUSE

    Hair pulling, biting, shaking, pushing, pinching, choking, kicking, confinement, slapping, hitting, punching, using weapons, forced intercourse, unwanted sexual touching in public or in private and depriving her of food or sleep.

    USING EMOTIONAL ABUSE

    Insulting her in public or in private
    Putting down her friends and family
    Making her feel bad about herself
    Calling her names
    Making her think she's crazy
    Playing mind games
    Humiliating her
    Making her feel guilty
    Using Male Privilege; acting like "Master of the Castle"
    Treating her like a servant
    Making all the big decisions
    Being the one to define men's and women's roles.

    USING ECONOMIC ABUSE

    Preventing her from getting or keeping a job
    Making her ask for money
    Giving her an allowance
    Taking her money
    Not letting her know about or have access to family income
    Not allowing her a voice in important financial decisions
    Demanding exclusive control over household finances.

    USING COERCION AND THREATS

    Making or carrying out threats to do something to hurt her
    Threatening to leave her, or to commit suicide
    Threatening to report her to welfare
    Making her drop charges
    Making her do illegal things.

    USING INTIMIDATION

    Making her afraid by using looks, gestures, or actions
    Throwing or smashing things, destroying property
    Abusing pets
    Dangerous driving
    Displaying weapons.

    USING CHILDREN

    Making her feel guilty about the children
    Using the children to relay messages
    Using visitation to harass her
    Threatening to take the children away.

    USING ISOLATION

    Controlling what she does, who she sees, what she reads, & where she goes
    Limiting her outside involvement
    Refusing to let her learn to drive, go to school, or get a job
    Not allowing her to freely use the car or the telephone.

    USING JEALOUSY AND BLAME TO JUSTIFY ACTIONS

    Minimizing, Denying, Blaming
    Making light of the abuse and not taking her concerns about it seriously
    Checking up on where she's been or who she's talked to
    Accusing her of infidelity
    Saying the abuse didn't happen
    Shifting responsibility for abusive behavior
    Saying she caused it.

    Why Get Help?

    The danger is real.

    If you are controlling or have a controlling partner, don't ignore these behaviors. They are not the result of stress, anger, drugs or alcohol. They are learned behaviors that one person uses to dominate, intimidate and manipulate. They are destructive and dangerous.

    If the abuse continues without outside help, the abusing partner may risk being arrested, going to jail, or losing the relationship.

    Domestic violence hurts all family members. When a person is abusive he or she eventually loses the trust and respect of his or her partner. Abused partners are afraid to communicate their feelings and needs.

    Everyone has the right to feel safe in a relationship. With help, people who are abusive can learn to be non-violent.

    Learn the Warning Signs

    Disagreements develop from time to time in relationships. Domestic violence is not a disagreement. It is a whole pattern of behaviors used by one partner to establish and maintain power and control over the other. These behaviors can become more frequent and intense over time.

    The abusive person is responsible for these behaviors. That person is the only one who can change them. Don't wait until you and the ones you love get hurt. You Are Not Alone. Consider getting some help. Talk with friends about your situation.


  • Message from Prosecuting Attorney
  • What is Domestic Violence?
  • Fast Facts on Domestic Violence
  • Domestic Violence Myths
  • Frequently Asked Questions
  • Are You a Victim?
  • Long-Term Effects
  • Domestic Violence Safety Plan
  • Shelter Resources
  • Men as Domestic Violence Victims
  • What to Do as a Victim
  • WWW Links

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